Shifting Focus

During the holidays, starting around Thanksgiving, I tend to eat more sugar because it's readily available, and I must admit that I enjoy it! Around that same time, I become less motivated to wake up early for quiet time with God and less inclined to move my body. Also, festivities increase, leaving me with less time to connect with God and care for myself—two things I ultimately need.

As the New Year approaches, I consider any necessary changes or resolutions. I know many of us, myself included, can easily slip into negative thought patterns regarding our eating habits because of the holidays. For example, after indulging, I might think, "Why did I eat that? I'm going to get fat. I don't have any willpower." Similarly, when I neglect to move my body, my thoughts may shift to, "I've been so lazy; great now I'm jiggly."

The sad part is that my brain tends to latch onto this negative narrative and start to believe it.

When I think negatively, I remind myself that love is patient and kind—first, God's love, and then love for myself and my own journey. Keeping this in mind allows me to shift my focus from perfectionism and embrace a path of patience and kindness. In this life, we are all learning and will inevitably face failures. However, as long as we consistently learn, we are on the right track. I encourage you to change your internal dialogue like I'm trying to do by saying, "I'm human. I don't do things perfectly. Change takes time." Positive self-talk is essential for developing a healthier relationship with yourself and can significantly increase self-compassion.